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As much as we want to grow up and be the actual person we always dreamed of, it is highly profitable to think of the consequences of each and every one of the little decisions that build up in time to get us there.

Every individual has their own personal disposition to life. While some believe that getting to their destined future requires adequate planning, some want to take it by force.

A lot of young folks end up committing suicide after failed money ritual attempts or after they realise that they have really messed things up. It is better to die than to be disgraced, they think.

While I was growing up, there was a mad(psychotic) man that roamed around my secondary school named Boro. There was also a very rich man who owned a very large steel company in the same area.

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Rumour had it that Boro and this man attempted money rituals together and while one made it through successfully, the other ran mad.

We sometimes fail at certain tasks but in most cases, we trust that someone somewhere would always show up for us no matter what.

Let’s even leave financial plans aside, you can be in the wrong place and mess things up temporarily or permanently for your life.

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Some people jump into situations they have no business being in but…well, they always manage to come out of it safely. I once had a friend who would intentionally look for trouble because nobody dared to touch him, he had a brother who was not only a soldier but was also tall and heavily built.

Apart from those deliberately looking for trouble, there are times you just mess things up from simple life enjoyments.

A gentleman just got a well-paying job and he thought…oh, life is finally balanced! This is not a new thing as opportunities abound everywhere and one can be uplifted from poverty into affluence even within the twinkle of an eye.

He upgraded his life as expected…new clothes, new apartment, he also got himself a car. Life has now finally kicked off at 35…Lol!

Meanwhile, before he got the job, everyone knew he had nothing but his people. They came through and still showed up even after he could now fend for himself. The love from his family and even friends was massive until he MESSED up!

Now, apart from upgrading his life, he picked up new hobbies as well. Some say you never know your true self until you start making big money.

People will always show up to help no matter how bad your crime is until it’s a total mess that’ll see everyone ending up in the mud.

Some of your people will even show up to help when they know it’s totally wrong to do so but they know in their mind that it is totally a no-go area. They simply want to let you see them as the last set of “helpers” after everyone else vanished. But after that, they too…vanishes.

He got into some troubles but he had made even more powerful friends…he got out each and every time. And then more troubles…until he assaulted a minor.

This was not his first time but this case was unusual…It was nothing like the others. He got arrested and all else failed. Money, power, friends and family tried at first until this case started bringing out several other tiny cases. Cases of rape, multiple assaults on several other minors and cyber fraud.

He got carried away in the enjoyment of life until it was too late. Most of the friends who introduced him to this lifestyle knew their ways around their actions and each of them gradually evaporated into thing air to escape being implicated.

My father would say “Remember the son of whom you are”. To me, that statement simply meant that if I got into any trouble, I was on my own.

It is always good to remember that life is unpredictable and sometimes bad things happen to even good people. Also, that people who once had your back can disappoint when you need them the most.

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Every decision we make, either positive and negative has a tremendous effect.

That is why one needs to weigh all alternatives available with caution, for effective decision making. Why do you need steps to follow before making a decision? Because it makes decision-making a lot simpler. Deciding without planning usually ends in disaster. The steps I will outline below will provide a standard of measurement. When next you make a decision and you follow these steps, they will help you recognize if you are going towards your goal or going further away from it.

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Steps for Effective Decision Making

  • 1. Specify the decision to be made. Firstly, you need to define the problem or situation that requires decision-making. It could be something as simple as deciding on a dinner outfit or something as complex as deciding a career path.
  • 2. List out your option. Even if the situation seems limited, try to make a list of possible options. Don’t evaluate at this point, just write what comes to your mind. Whether the idea seems crazy or not, put it down. You can always cross it off the list.
  • 3. Go over each option and weigh the outcome. List out every possible outcome for each option, whether it be negative or positive, put it down. Is the outcome worth it? Would you be able to forgive yourself after that kind of outcome? Answer all these questions before moving to the next step.
  • 4. Talk with your intuition. Imagine your ideal self, what would he or she think of this decision? If he or she wouldn’t, what would they have done differently? Picture every outcome in steps 3 and grade which of them you felt proudest of. Which of the outcomes made you feel like a better person?
  • 5. Make a choice. Yes, this is the hardest step. You must be ready to accept whatever comes out of that decision. You should be ready to bear the responsibilities.
  • 6. Execute your decisions joyfully. Don’t drain yourself thinking about the other options you could have gone with. Go ahead and implement your decision with joy.
  • 7. Evaluate your decision. This is the most important step. If you don’t take time to go over your decision, you won’t learn valuable lessons from it. Ask yourself feel questions. Was the result you got expected? Would you make this same decision again? Draw wisdom from the decision you have made.

In conclusion, always weigh the pros and cons before making any decision. Follow these seven steps closely for effective decision-making.

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Be Honest! Which of these Things Have Almost Killed You So Far in 2021?

This year 2021 has been different things for different people and if you’re reading this, you should consider it a blessing to have made it this far.

However, even as we celebrate being alive, what are these things that you can say almost killed you or gave you high blood pressure?

  1. Sapa
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This year 2021 has been different things for different people and if you’re reading this, you should consider it a blessing to have made it this far.

However, even as we celebrate being alive, what are these things that you can say almost killed you or gave you high blood pressure?

  1. Sapa
  2. Sex
  3. Heart Break
  4. Alcohol
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  6. Buhari
  7. School
  8. SARS
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