It is very important to praise our children. However, some individuals feels, it is impractical to give your child too much praise. While others assert that constant praise will spoil the child and make him feel too privileged, as if the world owed him something.
The question is, how much praise does your child needs? What kind of praise your he or she needs? Which type might affect him negatively? How can you offer praise that will bring a better result? Let’s find out!
Praise based on accomplishment is better.
Imagine your son has a particular skill, let’s say drawing. Naturally, he can draw anything. What will you do? Give her the praise he deserves. Make him feel you are proud of him. It will not be out of place to ask him to have a drawing of you or anything around. He will sense, feel the trust and confidence you have for him.
The right praise will motivate him to sharpen his skill even more. But there can be a stumbling block and disappointment sometimes. Don’t be shocked that he might shy away from new challenges.
Praise focused on talent alone could cause your child to think that the only skills worth pursuing are those that come easily. Pause and think, is any of your children skillful at a particular thing? Don’t fail to praise them.
Excessive praise can be dangerous.
Some parents offer undeserved praise in an attempt to uplift their children’s self-esteem. But, do you know that young ones “are smart enough to see through the exaggeration? Their conclusion? That you do not really mean what you say. They know that they did not deserve the praise and may conclude that they cannot have confidence and trust in you.
Praise your children’s effort, not just talent.
Telling your child, “I can see that you put a lot of thought into your drawing,” may do more good than saying, “You’re a natural artist.” Both statements offer praise, but the second one could unknowingly means that inborn skills are the only ones your child will be good at.
When you praise effort, you teach your child that ability can improve with practice. Your child might then take on new challenges more confidently.
Practical praise is best.
What happens when children are praised for their hard work and perseverance rather than simply for their talents? They come to appreciate a vital truth—that acquiring skill requires patience and effort.
Acknowledging that fact instills in them the desire to do more effort to achieve the desired result.. Even when they experience shortcomings, they don’t view themselves as failures, but as learners.
Give valuable and practical criticism.
When given in the right manner, negative feedback will help a child, not discourage him. Furthermore, if you regularly give appropriate praise, likely your child will welcome feedback on how he can further improve. Then his achievements will become a source of satisfaction both to him and to you.
Assist your children to deal with failure.
Who is perfect? Who don’t make mistakes? Absolutely, there is no one. Even good people repeatedly make mistakes. The truth is, when they fall, they get up, learn from the experience, and move on. The question is, how can you help your child to cultivate that positive approach?
Again, focus on effort. Consider an example: Suppose you often tell your daughter, “You’re a natural at math,” but then she fails a math test. She might conclude that she has failed, so why try to improve?
When you focus on effort, however, you are encouraging her to be strong!. You help your daughter to view a setback as a way to improve , and not as a failure or disaster. So rather than give up, she may try another approach or simply work harder.
Your child’s true potential lies beyond his natural gifts. Give effort-based praise, and he may surprise you—and himself—with newfound skill.