No sane person will allow his family to be unsuccessful. Everyone would be willing to apply any suggestions given in finding real family unity and happiness. The following are nice tips to a successful family life.
1. HAVE A PROPER VIEW OF HEADSHIP
The husband is the “senior partner,” available to be consulted, and responsible for the final decisions on matters affecting the family’s welfare. While the family head finalizes decisions on important matters, everyone is respectfully granted a hearing ear as to his ideas or opinions. The right-minded husband does not want to fight with his wife over issues, or to use force in exercising headship. There should be a feeling of freedom of thought, speech and action, limited only by the best interests of the family and of the individual.
The husband deserves to be respected, not merely because he is head—and certainly not from any supposition that he is “boss”—but because his wife is one with him and he does not want to hurt her or bring disgrace upon himself (and his Creator) by tyrannical use of authority.
2. KEEP LINES OF COMMUNICATION OPEN
The head of the family should try to encourage his wife and other members of the family to be free in their interchange of ideas, thoughts and feelings. He will keep the lines of communication open by being readily and kindly approachable upon any subject or problem. He will also respect their feelings, weigh their opinions impartially, and accord them certain authorities within their realm of activity in the family arrangement.
3. BE A CAPABLE WIFE
It is the responsibility of the woman, the wife to manage the household. Proving herself a good worker, capable and apt in handling these things, she usually would be the one planning the decoration of the home, the buying of food and, perhaps, furniture and other things that promote family happiness. The husband would intervene only when her plans or spending would be unwise or would endanger the family’s economy or welfare.
4. SHOW APPRECIATION
An appreciative husband never forgets to give his wife encouragement and to acknowledge freely her hard work and her accomplishments in the family’s behalf. His friends respect him because her fine qualities reflect his good headship and loving attention to her. Both husband and children speak well of her on every occasion.
5. USE THE RIGHT WORDS
Neither the good husband nor the good wife ever ‘runs down’ the mate by speaking disparagingly of him or her before others. They shrink from the thought of bringing such public disgrace and humiliation upon the family.
6. CONTROL YOUR ANGER
The good wife also understands that, while her husband is charged by the holy book, ‘not to be bitterly angry’ with his wife, she must be careful that she does not give him occasion to feel that way toward her. The effect of an unsubmissive, anger-prone or quarrelsome wife is disastrous. The husband is frustrated, he cannot restrain her, and her submissiveness becomes public knowledge, to the family’s disgrace.
Of course, with human imperfection, irritating situations will always occur and cannot be avoided. But people actually want to be happy and are rarely trying to be troublesome. So, both mates, rather than using retaliatory measures, will, by exercising self-control, speak words that promote love and happiness.
The wife can have a great share in making the family happy. She should understand that one basic truth, that wives are expected to be in subjection to their husbands. Thus, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.
7. AVOID COMPETITING WITH HIM
The good wife understands that, in a situation where she may think she is right, she should, nevertheless, submit to her husband’s decision if he sees the matter differently. She should not hypocritically claim to submit, while using devious means to try to control the situation.
Many marriages have failed. Love and respect in the marriage has dwindled. People no longer find security in their marriage. Hence applying the above suggestions will help.