To improve intimacy and build a good marriage relationship, the following unique tips will help as seen below:
45 Unique Tips For Building A Good Marriage
- Learn to confide in your spouse rather than in someone else.
- Create some quality time each day, or at least weekly, without distractions, when you can pour out feelings and thoughts.
- Share small everyday happenings with each other.
- Regularly show affection in little things—giving a small but unanticipated present, doing a chore the other dislikes (without being asked), leaving a loving note in the lunch box, or giving an unexpected touch or hug.
- Even if disagreements become serious, refuse to give up on your marriage.
- Couples who wish to cultivate intimacy should pay attention to how they listen.
- Be getting and giving . . . [emotional] support to each other, that is, always give and take.
- Do not choose to suffer in silence, becoming, in effect, “great pretenders,” as if all is well in your marriage.
- Understand each other’s emotional needs adequately.
- Try to discern what is behind your mate’s actions or remarks. . Ask yourself: Why is he or she telling me this? What does he or she really want or need?
- Put extra effort—and time— to smooth matters over.
- When you make your wife feel precious, her hostility often melts.
- Be a good listener. A good listener has the capacity for making the other person feel that he is especially valued and what he is saying is of concern and significance.
- Men’s confusion and consequent lack of responsiveness to their wives’ emotional needs is both a cause and an effect of unhappiness in many marriages.
- An active listener gives his mate full attention and attempts to understand what that one is saying without interrupting, arguing, or changing the subject.
- Set a mutually acceptable time and place to talk.
- Pinpoint the issue and stick to it.
- Have attitude of problem solving, not winning.
- Be willing to compromise for the sake of your marriage.
- Focus on the present, not on unrelated past events.
- Try not to attack personally nor hold grudges.
- Have only one person talk at a time.
- Be specific, yet sensitive to spouse’s feelings.
- Avoid mind reading. Ask for clarification.
- Avoid sarcasm and name-calling.
- Husbands and wives who are committed to their marriage view it as a permanent bond, and that creates a sense of security between them.
- You should try to view problems as obstacles, not as deal breakers.
- Be quick to forgive and quick to apologize.
- Many people go into marriage knowing that they have a ‘fallback plan’—divorce. Avoid such wrong view. When people enter marriage already thinking about the possibility of divorce, their commitment is lacking right from the start.
- When spouses have a sense of commitment, they feel secure. Each trusts that the other will continue to honor the union.
- Think of one or two actions you could take to strengthen your commitment.
- Write an occasional note to your spouse.
- Keep photos of your spouse on display at work.
- Phone your spouse each day from work, just to stay in touch.
- Although there is no excuse for marital unfaithfulness, a lack of tenderness could contribute to a spouse’s seeking affection and intimacy from someone else. Don’t allow room for that.
- To unlock and experience the precious joys of a good marriage, one essential is wholesome communication.
- Verbal assurances of continuing love, along with frequent acts of tenderness, would communicate a personal interest that would help to promote a truly satisfying marriage.
- Some spend so much time in front of the TV watching other people’s lives that they have little time for their own. Hence, turning off the television set is often a necessary step toward wholesome communication.
- Working together on projects at home can provide a fine atmosphere for communication.
- Just by being considerate in how you talk, marital problems can often be prevented.
- When you are annoyed with your mate, imagine that instead of talking to your spouse, you are conversing with a good friend or with your employer.
- When a man and a woman marry, they commit themselves to each other. To break a commitment is cheating, betrayal. So before considering having a secret affair, one would do well to ask oneself: Will all involved become happier? What about the feelings of guilt and the constant fear of finally being found out?
- A loving family head pays attention to his wife’s opinion on matters, realizing that she may have greater ability than he in certain areas.
- If you exercise love toward your mate, you will not harbor in your heart a vengeful spirit, waiting for the time when the ‘books of account’ will be balanced, in the meantime damaging your relations as a married couple by an angry or unfriendly attitude.
- One person can ruin a marriage, but it takes two to make it work. Making marriage work is an achievement.
Usually cracks and rifts in a marriage take time to develop, based on a series of small irritations and disagreements. So it takes time and effort to rebuild a good marriage relationships and strong family bonds. You can confidently expect results; but be patient.
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