Marriage is like a journey. It is up to you as a couple to make the journey a success or a failure.
Most men wants their marriage to be a success. On the other hand, some have knowingly or unknowingly destroy their marriage.
Let’s talk about what men can do to keep their marriage.
Things men must do keep their marriage.
1. Learn to control your anger.
Others will pound on the kitchen table, slam the doors. Go outing, if you are losing it. Be careful with your emotions.
If you easily get angry, please don’t defend yourself, saying, ‘that’s how I am, I cannot change me’. No, you can! And you will. Be determined. The point? Control your temper.
To save your marriage, you need to work on yourself, else you will lose everything, your wife and marriage.
2. Avoid hurting remarks.
Well-seasoned words can heal. Hurting remarks can destroy the marriage. Think before you speak. Give thought to how and what you say.
Women should be treated with care. Let her feel the warmth, care and tender in your voice. If you do, be assured that your marriage will blossom.
3. Always show appreciation.
Strong marriages are characterized by husbands and wives who ensure their mates feels appreciated.
You can show appreciation, by regularly commenting appreciatively on your wife’s positive actions and qualities.
4. Reassure her of your love.
A kind touch, a warm smile and a hug, reassures her that, she is special to you, you love her and that you need her.
5. Surprise her.
Send text messages to her, while at work. Give her a phone call and inform her of your undying love. Ask her about her day.
6. Freely forgive and forget.
Most men are trying in this regard. But, if you discover that to forgive is a challenge, you can improve. Think about the benefits of forgiveness:
- You will sleep well
- You will have a clean conscience, not a troubled one.
- You will feel better about the whole situation.
- It pleases your God.
- Both of you will draw closer together.
You can’t escape your own faults or those of your mate. Avoid resentment.
7. Always say sorry.
Admit your mistakes. A sincere and humble apology will help build a trusting relationship, win you your respect and gives you peace of mind.
8. Be committed to your spouse and to your marriage.
Don’t undermine your marital relationship. Don’t flirt. Focus your eyes only on your mate. Fulfill your vow to be committed to your wife.
9. Make sacrifices.
Your spouse needs and preferences should come first ahead of your own. Doing so, strengthens the marriage.
10. Honor your wife.
Listen to them. Her suggestion counts. Before making a decision that will affect the family, it is important to consider her point of view.
11. Respect her.
Don’t raise your hand on your wife. Don’t abuse her physically. Beating up your wife is not healthy.
12. Communicate with your wife.
Avoid silent treatment as a way to punish your wife. From your heart and mind, always communicate with your wife. Buy out time for communication.
13. Be loyal to your wife.
After your God, the next person you should be loyal to, is your mate. Sometimes, it can be a challenge, especially when dealing with both parents and extended family.
14. Share in house chores.
Domestic chores normally are cared for by women. However, it is not wrong to assist your wife in house chores, especially if you are less busy.
15. Understand her.
Understand your wife’s needs. It could be spiritual, emotional, psychological and physical needs. Understand her needs as a woman, mother and a wife.
16. Love your wife.
Keep loving her. Show her unconditional love.
17. Show empathy and consideration.
If you notice your wife does not feel well or ill, kindly be patient and show her extra consideration.
18. Create a loving atmosphere.
Your children and spouse should feel free at home. Create a warm and loving atmosphere at home.
19. Go outing.
Take her out for recreation. Don’t be over righteous. Be balance.
Many no longer take their marriage vows seriously. But, you can make a difference in your marriage! Stick to your mate. Cherish her. Make sacrifices for your marriage and love till eternity!